We’re about to dive into a topic near and dear to my heart – why it’s fabulous to be single. Before you roll your eyes and think, “Yeah, right,” just hear me out. As a card-carrying member of the Single Women’s Society (if that were actually a thing), I’m here to tell you that flying solo isn’t just okay – it’s bloody brilliant!
Sure, society is trying to convince us that our lives won’t be complete until we’re part of a dynamic duo. But really, who needs a sidekick when you can be your own superhero?
From indulging in solo dance parties to having the entire bed to yourself, there’s a lot to celebrate about being footloose and fancy-free.
So, grab that tub of ice cream (no need to share, hooray!) and join me as we explore the seven glorious reasons why riding solo is absolutely, positively, and unapologetically fab.
It’s a time for self-discovery
Remember that classic scene from “Eat, Pray, Love” where, after Elizabeth gets divorced, she leaves her job and travels to three different countries to discover herself for a whole year?
Well, this could be you! Whether you are divorced or not!
That’s why it’s fabulous to be single – you have the luxury of enjoying and celebrating yourself through new and exciting things.
You can go to a beach and learn scuba diving or take some surfing lessons. Or, if you’re more of a mountain person, you can go hiking with your friends. You can camp out in a park or forest. Or, if you’re more of an indoor person you can also do activities like meditating, exercising, reading books, or finishing 100 movies in 100 days.
The most important thing is that you get to know yourself more. You get to know what you like and what you don’t like. Self-discovery is crucial to our well-being, but you can’t really do that when you’re in a relationship, can you?
You can concentrate on your friendships
Society has brainwashed all of us to think that a romantic relationship is the most important relationship in our lives. But, truthfully speaking, after that bad breakup (if you ever had one), do you really think so?
Don’t go on a wild goose chase and pursue another relationship. Instead, go out and have fun with your besties! Rekindle lost friendships and find comfort in spending time with those amazing people.
You’ll find that having strong social ties can enrich your life in so many ways. Invite them to your home and have them spend the night. Or, in your free time, you can spend the afternoon with them, just shopping in the mall, going to parties, or attending classes (like learning pottery or painting).
If you friendship group have dwindled, as often can happen during a relationship, find new friends. There are many women in the same boat as you also looking for friendship. Making is friends is easy with friend finder apps and online groups where you can hook up with like-minded mates.
Having more time to nurture important friendships is definitely one of the best reasons why it’s fabulous to be single.
Note: If you’re a single mum looking for friends, join the Single Mum Vine Facebook group to connect with thousands of other single mothers.
Independence is all yours
There is something so damn empowering about being totally and utterly independent. You’re the captain of your ship, charting your course without needing anyone’s approval.
I love that I have complete control over my decisions and actions.
Not a fan of rugby that your ex loved? No problem! Missing your favourite dish that your former partner was allergic to? Well, you no longer need to accommodate another person’s conflicting interests and lifestyles into your plans all the time. It might feel a little scary, but it is also exhilarating.
It’s fabulous to be single because you are no longer bound by the expectations or preferences of a partner, allowing you to navigate life on your terms.
Go, the independent, single women out there!
Complete and utter freedom
When you look on the bright side, being single is not so bad. In fact, it’s awesome. The biggest perk? You have freedom.
And freedom is a luxury. It’s priceless, like time. It’s one of the things that we take for granted when we’re young. But as we become older, we realise just how precious it is and just how much it can make us happy.
If you’re divorced and haven’t gotten out of the divorce hangover yet, then you will never realise this: That divorce you were sobbing uncontrollably over? Girl, it’s a blessing in disguise. Come out stronger and celebrate that freedom with me!
Or, if you went through a horrible break-up with an ex who’s done nothing but control your every movement, then you’d know, just like I do, that freedom equates to happiness.
I’d take that freedom over a wrong man any day.
You’re not living your life for anyone else
Let’s admit it. Living your life for someone else is draining, right?
But, when you’re single, you won’t have to focus all your energy on keeping your partner satisfied. You won’t have to spend your time trying to make things better for them. You won’t have to put all your efforts into trying to make them happy, if only for a moment.
That energy, time, and effort? That could’ve gone to an activity or career that makes your life fulfilling.
But maybe this whole “living-your-life-for-someone-else” thing is really a canon event that all of us have to live through in order to realise that we shouldn’t live for someone else.
But, just promise yourself you won’t stay there. Trust me when I say the grass is definitely greener on this side.
If you still need convincing that it’s fabulous to be single, this should be something that will entice you: loads of uninterrupted me-time.
There’s no one to call us whenever we’re in the middle of a dance floor. Or, tell us to go home early whenever we’re having fun out with our friends. And most importantly, we can spend our time doing hobbies that we really enjoy.
You should be able to look back on your life with no regret. Don’t force yourself into a relationship just because social media or traditions tell you to. The truth is, it’s not all unicorns and rainbows over there.
Just stop and take a moment. Do you really want to be in a relationship, or is it just because of the external pressure? Don’t you want to have all the time to yourself and spend it however you want without feeling guilty?
Flirt with who you like!
But the most exciting part that makes it fabulous to be single is that you get to flirt with who you like!
A healthy, no-strings-attached flirt always makes me feel great. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t strut your stuff. Just take care not to lead anyone on if it really is only flirting and you have no intention to take it further.
Single life can introduce you to this thing I like to call “healthy flirting.” It’s when you and the guy you met are on the same page when it comes to relationships. You both don’t want to commit (not yet, anyway), and you know what both of your boundaries are.
It’s casual, and you can get playful as much as you want. Remember: nothing will break when there are no strings attached.
Further reading: Friends with benefits: 6 Rules to make it work.
Final thoughts on why it’s fabulous to be single
Society conditions us women to fear the thought of being single. That’s why you might believe not being in a romantic relationship is sad and shameful. But the truth is, it’s everything but.
Having proudly navigated singleness for a long time, I can firmly attest that the real sadness and shame lie in clinging to a loveless and pointless relationship out of fear of being alone.
If you’re fresh out of a divorce or a breakup, you might find it impossible to see the silver lining. You might not understand how it can be fabulous to be single.
But give it time, and you will see that this chapter of your life celebrates self-discovery, empowerment, and the realisation that your happiness and fulfilment come from within. As you continue to embrace the unique adventures that come with being an unattached woman, revel in the beauty of charting your course and savouring the joys of this wonderful phase.
Soon, you’ll realise: Prince Charming is overrated.
So, here’s to embracing this chapter with a wink, a smile, and the knowledge that we’re the authors of our own happily ever after. Cheers to the fearless, independent, and utterly fabulous single women that we are!