Sex and the single parent? Let’s talk about it, because contrary to popular belief, you can still have plenty of sexy fun in between those nursery drop-offs and shared play dates.
If you think that a good, healthy sex life starts and ends with a long-term relationship, you’d be mistaken – it’s for everyone, the single mum included. Presumably, you may find it more difficult to fit those racy encounters into your busy agenda, but with a little imagination and matched organisational skills, you can be well on track for life in the fast lane with lots of time for dating, socialising, self-pleasure and lovemaking.
Whether you’re 100% unattached, just dipping your toes back into the world of dating or are in the earlier stages of a new and exciting partnership, here are seven awesome ways to get your fair share of sexy fun as a single mum.
Yes, you can have sexy fun even as a single mum
Friends with Benefits
You only have to think of Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis in American comedy ‘Friends with Benefits’ to get excited for a no strings attached romance. Relatively low-pressured, this set-up is free from traditional relationship restraints and works well if you don’t have enough time and energy to commit to something more serious.
Enjoy plenty of spontaneous booty-calls, late-night action and exciting exchanges without the expectation of long-term promise. Although, as can be expected, casual partners don’t often come with emotional attachment so if you’re looking for personal investment, you might want to leave this one on the shelf.
Further reading: Friends with benefits: 6 Rules to make it work.
In those pre-child days, it was easy to hook up. You’d pull on your best jeans, slip on the stilettos and get ready for a night out on the town with your girlfriends. You’d eye up your target at the bar and seal the deal with a quick kiss under the night club door. But what happens now that nights-off are strictly off the cards? Say hello to the smartphone. One quick fire way to get a little flirtatious.
Sexting hasn’t always had a positive press but sending racy content through your phone network can be a safe way to explore your sexual desires, providing you’re responsible in knowing and respecting your limits. Remember, you don’t have to send pictures or visuals to get things hot under the collar – just a few messages of a naughtier nature can be plenty enough to raise the heat.
Fall into a Book
Let’s face it, real life can come with real challenges too and it’s not always easy being a single mum! So how do you balance your daily responsibilities while still enjoying the sexy fun you deserve? Explore your fantasies through a fictional world.
There are countless benefits to reading erotica. It allows you the freedom and space to feed your erotic imagination and to live vicariously through your deeper desires without ever jeopardising your real-life boundaries. If and when the time comes to communicate your sexual preferences with a partner further down the line, you could just find that your penchant for erotica reading will help you articulate those desires and needs more confidently.
It’s also the perfect way to unwind and relax after a long and tiring day! Just run a hot bath or get cosy under the covers to enjoy your favourite sexy read.
It might sound like a cliché, but you really are number one. Number one to your child/ren always, but at times, you should be your first priority too. Sexy fun feels the best when you feel your best, so remember to schedule some time for yourself to enjoy doing the things that make you feel good.
Already exhausted your favourite episode re-runs of Sex and the City? Take some inspiration from Sarah Jessica Parker and treat yourself to some new toys. Not sure what you’re looking for? You won’t go far wrong with the traditional rabbit vibe, but right now, clitoral suction toys are also proving to be one of the most popular buys for 2023. There’s no shame in enjoying self-pleasure, so go on and romance yourself right into that next racy rendezvous.
FEELING SEXY AS A SINGLE MOTHER
Ah, how we love them, with their snotty noses, quick wit and treasured innocence, but there’s no denying our mini counterparts can also be the world’s biggest passion killers. If you want to enjoy sexy fun to its fullest, it’s never a bad idea to book in a babysitter. Life as the single mum can be 100 miles an hour, so don’t be shy in asking friends and family for a little help now and then.
If you don’t have a relative on hand, meeting up with other mums through local groups, events and schools is a great way to build your support network – and you can always return the favour!
There’s an App for that
And thank goodness too, because let’s be real, you’re unlikely to strike gold at the grocery store. Thanks to dating apps, it’s never been easier to hook up. Gone are the days of trawling through newspaper ads to find your Mr or Mrs Right. Nowadays, you can simply swipe right to match, and all in the comfort of your favourite pyjamas too.
Now, that on its own might not sound all that sexy, but a few flirty exchanges later and a date night firmly planned in, you could be swooning (and spooning!) in no time.
Further reading: 8 Hot dating apps for a casual fling.
Cook up a Storm
If you’ve dated for a while and are comfortable spending time together at home now, you can always cook up a storm instead of heading out to get wined and dined. We hear you, wondering how cooking made the sexy fun wish list when you’ve already spent the day baking cookies with your mini charmer. Well, when the little one’s sound asleep in the land of nod, it’s time to raise the heat in the kitchen.
Treat your new-found romance to a dinner for two and be sure to include lots of asparagus and oysters, with chocolate and strawberries whipped up for dessert. These delicious aphrodisiacs are renowned for enhancing your sexual appetite, bringing a whole new meaning to eating out … tasty!